Since when is sex before a relationship? This is something that has baffled me over the last few days. You would think that with the amount of deception and disease that people would be more cautious about who they allow in their pants; but society throws us in a completely different direction. I don’t understand.
Men say that they will respect you more if you make them wait… but it’s a lie. You can make them wait all you want; they’ll just find someone else in the meanwhile. So are people even true to others anymore? I was asked the other day about why I’m not more excited to go over to Bob’s- why I didn’t feel the need to pounce on him. Honestly, I like the guy… but if he makes sex too easy… I’m not interested. Does that make sense? Women are not supposed to be hunters; that’s the man’s identity. Then if you look at gender roles in society, I guess it really doesn’t matter who does what, right?
Moe told me last night that he just wants to be fuck-friends. “Modified Fuck-Friends” He’s from Ottawa and he’s living here with his mother for now until his hip heals. He was in a car accident a few weeks back. He wants a relationship with no strings. He took me on two dates. First of all you don’t sleep with the guy before three dates. Not a Cosmo “rule” just common sense because you really don’t know him that well before then. He’s still sticking his penis inside you… you want to know all that you can. An the longer he’s willing to wait the better. Means he respects your wishes more and that you come first before him. Crucial in a relationship. I am a strong believer in being submissive to the man in the relationship but to what point do you sign over your freewill? Like I said before, if it’s too easy then it’s boring. I think back to the times in England in the midevil times when women didn’t know what pleasure was. Their mothers would tell them to lay back and think of England while their men would use them for their pleasure. Is history repeating itself?
That doesn’t work in my books. But he can’t seem to wrap his head around this. It’s frustrating.
I told him last night, I’m sorry that he landed on the young grasshopper who didn’t want to sleep around. He again told me that I should be proud of it… Is that not a double standard? “Be proud of yourself.. but I’m going to do my best to make you feel guilty for not wanting me” That’s basically the message that he’s sending me. No?
That’s two now. And at the same time, I’m questioning my methods. It’s never good to question yourself about anything.
On to the next one? I may take a break from dating.
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