For those of you who don’t believe in that can’t eat, can’t sleep, reach for the stars over the fence, world series kind of love… It exists. We literally had a virtual relationship? Phone sex included. ;- ) It was perfect. If only it would have been actually me. This man was so real and I twisted him. Lead him on. Lied to him.
About a year ago, I had created an alter-ego. I was 5’4″, blonde, lean… fearless femme fatale. I met a guy online, and we ended up falling in love with each other. Over 7 months, we spent 3-6 hours a day on the phone and never met. He would call me at 7:01 every morning on his way to work, and the train would go through this tunnel around 7:26 where the phone would cut off… usually mid-I-Love-You. Then we he would call me back at 7:35 depending sometimes 7:37… Wonderful way to start your day. I loved him, what I knew of him through the receiver of my phone.
Eventually, i had to get creative with my stories because he was on to me. I could feel it. I told him I was pregnant with twins. We had tried to break things off several times, we just couldn’t get enough of each other. He even started seeing someone else while he was in love with Ava. It was eating at me, tearing me apart. I would cry after hours of speaking with him. Love? Joy? Sadness? Helplessness? I was so involved in this lie that I didn’t know how to get out of it without hurting either of us.
He had mentioned to me that he was coming to my town to play poker. The Mohawk Casino just happened to be minutes from my house. I wrote a quick letter with lyrics to a song we were both naming our own. I called one of my close friends, and we drove over to Poker Playground. He had told what kind of car he drove and that he had recently hit a yellow cement pillar. My friend and I drove in circles trying to find it. Finally, when we did, I skipped over and placed the envelop in the door handle. This was the closest Ava had ever been to her lover.
He called to invite me over, and when I refused… He got quiet.
He had the letter in his hand, which I had sprayed with my CocoChanel.
I had to tell him.
7 months had gone by. How had I let this happen.
At this point, as I was trying to hold back tears telling him the story about what had happened, I couldn’t help but think how intoxicating the perfume must have been for him to bear.
Earlier in the week, He had set up a rendez-vous point. We were to meet at a mall and enter from different entrances. We would then call each other, and meet up somewhere in the middle. This way we were both already well into the conversation that nothing would be awkward. He even included a map with colors indicating our separate routes.
After I laid all my cards on the table, I told him that I would follow his instructions if he could find it in his heart to meet me. He said that he would be there. 12 sharp.
I saw him sitting in his car. I honestly didn’t know what to expect. I called him. I could hear that he was frustrated in his voice. Angry. Upset. This mad my heart race. Was it going to be a confrontation between the two of us? I was already feeling vulnerable.
He walked up to me. His eyes were cold as ice.
I looked at him, stern. cold. poker face. But I couldn’t hold it for very long.
He hugged me. And told me everything was alright.
We saw each other a few times, but it wasn’t the same. He had called me a few weeks later at 3am. Our usual time, and it was strange. He called once more following our last date. He was upset, and had manged to cry himself to sleep. His last words to me were, “I don’t even know why I called you.”
I was obviously devastated. I had developed real feeling for this man, who didn’t even know the real me. It hurt and to this day, no one has measured up to Michel.
It’s his birthday today. What to do…this time last year, I was on the phone with him celebrating his 27th…this year….
Regardless of the reasoning, I managed to break this man’s heart. I still think about him and wonder if I even deserve his forgiveness.
How do you fix something like this?