What next?
December 2013. I don’t remember what I was going through this time last year. Feels like I’m finally starting to get over a few people. I recently went on a cruise through the Caribbean. Best trip of my life. I understand now why my best friend takes off to see the world every now and then. It’s the most liberating experience ever.
I feel like we just move through motions of time. Life really is nothing but a sequence of moments. Sometimes we’re happy and sometimes we’re sad. Nothing lasts forever and everything takes work if you want it to sparkle.
Michel recently spoke to me on Facebook. Asked if I was doing alright and when I didn’t respond he said that he was proud of where I was going in life. Looked like I had it all together. I was smitten. Best day of my life.
Just before the cruise, I told Ben that I wasn’t interested in him anymore. We had had sex just before I moved out of my apartment. I honestly felt like I was in a horror film. He came into the apartment and just got on top of me. He was panting and grunting. He asked if I liked it, continuously. I couldn’t feel anything. From that point on, things have been different. It took three years to see him in his true light. We’ve exchanged a few emails over the past month since my trip. He said last night that I was different. Really? You think? Over the years, I’ve wanted a relationship with him. Now that I don’t, he’s chasing me. Funny how it works, isn’t it? I remember him sitting in my car telling me how he knew that I wanted him to be my husband. I laugh now thinking about this bullshit. I told him this over email this week. His response was unbelievable. “You’ve always had other things going on.” He tried to pin it on me. Clever little man. Ever wish that your future self could go back in time to talk to your present self?
I ask myself when I think about him, did he ever really know me? He liked me for sex. Did he actually like me or just the fact that I would open my legs for him from time to time?
I met a new guy, Ajay. I have so much fun with him. We’re the same age. Already this is an amazing feat. We have a lot in common and I don’t hide anything from him. I don’t have to impress him or outshine him. It’s nice. We’re kind of dating.. not sure. I call it Light&Fluffy. It’s refreshing after all the little relationships that I’ve had over the past year. He still has a few things to learn about women.
My current boyfriend is Alae. He went back to Tunisia for a month or so. Compared to Ajay, this guy seems like he’s on a different planet. We don’t communicate well. I know he likes me and vice versa, but how do you fall in love? There’s no spark. It was starting but then he left for his home country. I can’t stop thinking about him not being a Canadian citizen? Could he only want me for papers? We had sex, and again I felt nothing. I’ve had some pretty amazing sex in my lifetime. What do you have to do get that special feeling? An orgasm is an orgasm, but what about that sparkle?
Jimmy popped back into the picture last week. He invited me over for breakfast. Said he would marry me one day. Cutest thing ever.
I think Ben had a lot to do with the relationship failure rate of 2013. Can I really blame him? Even if I told him that I was dating someone, he would still send me cock pics and sex emails. He always said that he was bad for me, and that he was the reason for my life being screwed up. He’s a manipulator. I had an amazing man in my life, and I still slept with Ben. Enough.
Ben is over. No more.
I’d like to travel. I know it’s not the right time to jump ship. I feel like bigger things are coming. People are telling me that I’m wasting my time in my current job and not living life enough or managing my time properly. Slow and easy always wins the race. I’m not ready yet. I know the night I took off to NYC last year, I had the time of my life. It was spontaneous. So is the rest of my life.
I’m happy where I am. Need to clean up the love life a little bit. One at a time.
No more sex.